Shaping a Positive Parenting Mindset for ADHD Families

Expectations are powerful—they represent the belief that you can achieve something meaningful. If you want to be a great parent to your child with ADHD, it starts with believing that you can. 

What You Focus On—Grows

We unintentionally reinforce those behaviors when we dwell on moments of frustration, impatience, or mistakes. But when we focus on patience, empathy, encouragement, and support, those qualities flourish instead. The more we practice positive actions, the more they become habits, shaping a nurturing and connected parenting approach. In other words, what you focus on—grows.

Research shows that our brains don’t differentiate between doing something and imagining it. Athletes have used this technique for decades. They visualize themselves succeeding—scoring a goal, performing a perfect routine, or winning in their sport. By mentally rehearsing success, they prepare their brains and bodies for those outcomes.

We can apply the same strategy as parents. Picture yourself being calm, patient, empathetic, and supportive during challenging moments. Create a mental image of the parent you aspire to be.

Visualize One Minute a Day

Take just one minute each day to visualize how you want to show up. If you anticipate a hectic day, imagine managing it calmly and gracefully. Picture your steady voice, relaxed body, and supportive responses. Hold onto that image throughout the day.

The more you practice this mental rehearsal, the more naturally your brain will respond in those ways. By focusing on positive expectations, you nurture yourself and your child in ways that truly matter.